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Covid changed us all. In many categories, lives got better or worse but few remained the same. Love was a major area of dramatization. Partners either got closer or couldn’t wait to be apart. Extremes have been more common than subtlety.

Are wedding bells giving you a headache? Your big day is one day. It’s not forever.

Can we agree that marriage is more important than the wedding? Then now would be a fantastic time to keep a firm hold on perspective. Reaching agreement about your “big day” and the decisions surrounding it helps guarantee memories that will warm both of your hearts.

LESSON TO LEARN BY: Cindy and Mario

Cindy and Mario, are clients of mine who are naturals together - a beautifully suited pair. Their similarities and common interests out weigh their differences. They are loving, sexually compatible, share the same values, and have fun. They had been friends and colleagues for eight years before their romance began. A year later, deciding to marry seemed an obvious and happy conclusion.

Change what you want — but do it with love.

It's important to learn how to love your body.

I remember seeing a cartoon titled, "The Difference Between Women and Men," that had a naked man and woman each looking into a full-length mirror.

The woman saw herself as three times bigger while the overweight, balding man saw a chiseled Adonis.

While I know some men are painfully uncomfortable about their looks, being perpetually self-conscious and unduly critical is more often a problem for women.

So, unless you’re one of the very few who are genetically blessed with society’s idea of perfection, you probably exaggerate your flaws

Many women say they feel more comfortable undressing in front of men than they do undressing in front of other women. They say that women are judgmental, which may very well be projection.

Meanwhile, men are, of course, just as likely to be grateful. By the time a man sees you naked, he already desires you and is more focused on enjoying than criticizing.

When conditions force you into more alone time, see it as an opportunity.

As important as communication is, without connection — touching, sensing, and giving what you've learned your partner needs — a relationship is less likely to be sustainable.

Connection is an all-important key component to a happy love life and a hot relationship.

Here are 7 ways to keep that connection alive and learn how to have a hot relationship.

1. Keep your mate’s most loving messages and texts on your phone and reread them.