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When conditions force you into more alone time, see it as an opportunity.

As important as communication is, without connection — touching, sensing, and giving what you've learned your partner needs — a relationship is less likely to be sustainable.

Connection is an all-important key component to a happy love life and a hot relationship.

Here are 7 ways to keep that connection alive and learn how to have a hot relationship.

1. Keep your mate’s most loving messages and texts on your phone and reread them.

Yes, a fight can actually bring you together.

In a perfect world, couples would never fight. But we don’t live in a perfect world, and people in relationships often feel misunderstood, neglected, insecure, and any number of other emotions that can lead to fights and disagreements.

That doesn’t mean your relationship is headed for doom and gloom, and it doesn’t necessarily mean you're any 'less connected' as a couple.

Fighting, or arguing, can even be healthy for a relationship IF it’s done respectfully and you both come out of it with a better understanding of the other person when the conflict is resolved.

True compatibility is the feeling that you have a helpmate – someone who wants to help you reach your goals and develop as a person. And you must respect and be willing to support your mate’s development and goals as well. With such a strong base, staying together becomes relatively easy.

I’m going to let you in on a secret: people without any dreams or aspirations usually aren’t as interesting as those with a sense of purpose. If you’ve ever met someone who has given up wanting anything for his or her future, you know they tend to lack enthusiasm and are not much fun to be around. They lower the energy level in the room and are likely to be relationship challenged as well.

Time to learn where sexiness REALLY comes from.

Albert Einstein may have suffered from cognitive decline, but no one was smart enough to know. Memories don’t start declining until very late in life. If you’re doing it right, there is more in stored for your memory as life rolls on. And filing can be a problem.

Think about it: Now compared to 10 years ago, you know more. Memory has expanded, but isn’t limitless. What you may perceive as decline is uncontrolled off-loading.

In the future, we may have a system for controlled erasure. But now your brain gets rid of what is, for the most part, superfluous.

Can this information make you sexier? Yes — a guarantee. If you would, from this day forward forever, stop saying, “my mind isn’t what it used to be," you will feel smarter, younger, and sexier.

Because anytime you decrease the number of times you insinuate you are a dummy, you decrease the number of times that you will not feel good about yourself.

I don’t know about you, but if I don’t feel sexy, I am feeling like an idiot.

LOVE STORY

Hell hath no fury like a man scorned. Emotional overload has less to do with gender temperament differences than who holds the power. Lance had a rather lackluster approach to life in general and work in particular. He had the soul of a renaissance man without the resources to back it or a strong urge to earn.